Relationship Sexy


Posted by on Aug 15, 2015

  I am halfway through a four mile hike around our cabin when my man’s text comes through: I’m an hour away. He’s in a pocket of cell coverage and so am I, so he just might get the text I compose back: Sorry, I’m running late but I sent someone to meet you at the cabin and get the party started.  Get this: her name is River. My thumb hovers over the send button.  Once I hit it, I’ll be committed to the Call Girl role play that’s been brewing in the back of my brain for well over a year now. I’ve already done my eyes with the purple eyeliner I got at the new Mac store at the Denver...

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Cafe Au Laid

Posted by on Oct 21, 2013

Sexy Ritual. I love the way those two words go together and the idea of using simple ceremony or tradition as a means of engaging more sensually with life. The first morning my man and I woke up together, he brought me a cup of coffee in bed. This, of course, was grounds for marriage. I was so touched that I drank it which was totally reckless since I get wired off a cup of decaffeinated green tea. Let’s just say I found a way to channel the buzz and eleven years later Coffee In Bed is still one of our favorite rituals. I encourage you to try it whether you are single or in a...

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Cup of Josephine

Posted by on Jul 3, 2013

I have a guest blogger this week. In this post, Herman gets off on a cup of coffee… Recently  I found myself in Roseburg, Oregon while away on work.  With its streets lined with chain stores and more than a few seedy characters, I found Roseburg to be an uninspiring, somewhat sketchy town. That is, until I stopped at one of the hundreds of coffee stands there. Expecting to drive up and order my normal americano, imagine my surprise when this beauty greeted me at the window: Judging by the smile on her face, I think she enjoyed my surprise and inability to make a coherent sentence....

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Eros On Vacation

Posted by on Jun 13, 2013

Want hot sex with your partner? Take separate vacations. The word on the streets is that Eros needs a little space. I shared a link in a recent post to a New York Times article by Daniel Bergner about female sexual desire and the search for a drug to stimulate it. In that article, Esther Perel, a couples therapist and author of “Mating in Captivity,” writes: “Many couples confuse love with merging. This mix-up is a bad omen for sex. To sustain élan toward the other, there must be a synapse to cross. Eroticism requires distance.” Daniel Bergner popped up again in Salon Magazine where he was...

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Spring Meltdown

Posted by on Jun 5, 2013

Me. Alone. At the cabin. It’s become a spring ritual. Last year I had a spring run off.  This year I’m having a spring meltdown. I’m not having one of those emotional meltdowns where I feel like I’m losing it and desperately dialing sisters and girlfriends for insight.  (I got that out of the way this winter.) Quite the contrary. This spring I’m melting myself down like the white gold of my first wedding ring. (One man for the rest of my life?  No problem.  One ring?  No way.) I’m heating myself up here… …and as I sit in our wood-fired hot tub and watch the snowy peaks morph into rivers, I...

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