Your Sexy Self

Doctor’s Orders: A Prescription for Masturbation

Posted by on May 25, 2019

I’m a late-bloomer masturbator (I hope you can appreciate how much sexual shame I’ve had to work through to write that sentence). And I have my sexy doctor to thank for it. I’m 53. I eat an ridiculous amount of vegetables; don’t take any medications; and made it through menopause without hurting anyone so I really don’t need an annual exam with an OB/GYN. But I go anyway. Because my doctor oozes vitality; has a kick ass blond pixie… …and gives me prescriptions like this: Sex.  Three times a week. With your husband or a dildo.  Orgasms recommended to encourage...

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Posted by on Mar 17, 2019

      Sexuality. Sensuality.  It’s our sparkle.   We are one of the most sensuous creatures on the planet and yet… we forget. I’m here to remind you. So if you haven’t been aware of the sultry sway of your hips, the gorgeous curves of your upright spine, or the heady musk of your arousal , I hear you.  I’ve been waylaid from my sensuality practices (like naked yoga with the full moon)the past few weeks myself. But we’re going to shift that right here, right now with this simple truth: You are 100 % responsible for your own sexuality. I find that...

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Sexy Altars

Posted by on Oct 17, 2018

There is something unarguably sexy about a woman’s altar. It’s a place where her turmoil, overwhelm and emotional angst can, on a good day, transmute to trust, acceptance and love. It’s a portal through which her demons can exit and her angels descend. I walked into the jalaBlu yoga studio in Buena Vista, Colorado this summer and was instantly seduced by the altar the owner, Jenna, had created in her studio   The floor space in front of it was empty so I filled it with my mat.  As I waited for yoga class to begin, I sat and  absorbed the beauty (fresh stargazer...

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Sexy Movies

Posted by on Sep 21, 2018

I watched a Star is Born the other day, the 1976 version with Barbara Streisand and Kris Kristofferson. The first time I watched it I was 12. I don’t know how my girlfriend and I managed to tag along with her mother to see an R-rated film, but I do know this: it had a huge influence on me, in ways I didn’t even realize until I re-watched it the other night.  I see now that some sexy seeds were strewn in that dark Atlanta theater that germinated in my adolescent subconscious. Ten years later, a Hopeless Romantic was born. I was 22 and passionate about my bad boy, guitar playing boyfriend....

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Sexy Cape

Posted by on Nov 8, 2015

I’ve written about the sexiness of Feng Shui before. It’s a concept that merits revisiting because clutter breeds like bunnies and stifles the sensual flow of your life.  It must be eradicated! I took on my closet last week determined to clear out summer clothes, move in the winter ones and purge.  Crammed in the back between a seldom worn fleece jacket (now in the castaway pile) and a sleeping bag (they have to be hung) I found one of the sexiest things I own. My wedding cape. It was the perfect accessory for a September bride dressed in a floor length lingerie dress riding side...

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