Your Sexy Self

Sexy Cape

Posted by on Nov 8, 2015

I’ve written about the sexiness of Feng Shui before. It’s a concept that merits revisiting because clutter breeds like bunnies and stifles the sensual flow of your life.  It must be eradicated! I took on my closet last week determined to clear out summer clothes, move in the winter ones and purge.  Crammed in the back between a seldom worn fleece jacket (now in the castaway pile) and a sleeping bag (they have to be hung) I found one of the sexiest things I own. My wedding cape. It was the perfect accessory for a September bride dressed in a floor length lingerie dress riding side...

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Sexy Switch

Posted by on Sep 11, 2015

What turns you on?  What turns you off? No doubt, these are great sexy questions to ponder. I recently watched a TED talk by sex therapist and bestselling author Esther Perel about the complexities of sustaining passion in long term relationships.  It’s packed with great information but what jumped out at me was her twist on the above questions.  Instead, Perel asks: How do you turn yourself on?  How do you turn yourself off? Brava Esther! Way to encourage us to find our sexy switch and reclaim responsibility for our sensual selves. Of course I started making a list as soon as the...

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Sexy Lining

Posted by on Jun 24, 2015

I try to find the sexy lining in every cloud. But I am having a really hard time with this one: stomach cancer is raging like a deadly hurricane through my father’s body, reducing the robust 200- pound man of my childhood to a mere 130 pounds.  As soon as I arrive to my parent’s home in Michigan and see him convalescing in his Lazy boy chair, I notice how the weight reduction has made his smile that much bigger, despite the fact that he is being racked with hiccups that have been plaguing him for over a week, making it impossible for him and my mother to sleep at night. I drop to my knees...

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Two Kinds of Ecstasy

Posted by on Oct 7, 2014

  I am suspended in hot water beneath a moonlit sky. The diameter of our cedar, wood- fired hot tub is such that I can rest the back of my neck on one side and my feet on the other, so only my breasts and pubis and are exposed to the October night air The waxing moon has already started it’s decent towards the mountains to the west and is perfectly framed between the branches of two bare aspen trees.  Golden leaves still cling to the trees beside the hot tub, their gentle percussive in the intermittent breeze sounds like a thousand delicate hands clapping, as If I’m being applauded for...

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Sexy Thrift

Posted by on Jul 11, 2014

I went shopping for some lingerie the other day. True, I have a drawerful (that probably needs some fung shui-ing again) but I wanted something different, something summery and sexy for a rendezvous with my man who has been off flirting with one of his favorite rivers for the past two weeks. Did I shop at Agent Provacateur? I wish. Victoria Secret? Uh no. I went here:   This wasn’t my first foray into thrifty lingerie. And it won’t be my last because I scored a coral-colored silk Victoria Secret gown for $2.50 (It was marked $4.99 but it was Half Off Saturday).  For that price I...

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