Your Sexy Self

Sexy Altars

Posted by on Oct 17, 2018

There is something unarguably sexy about a woman’s altar. It’s a place where her turmoil, overwhelm and emotional angst can, on a good day, transmute to trust, acceptance and love. It’s a portal through which her demons can exit and her angels descend. I walked into the jalaBlu yoga studio in Buena Vista, Colorado this summer and was instantly seduced by the altar the owner, Jenna, had created in her studio   The floor space in front of it was empty so I filled it with my mat.  As I waited for yoga class to begin, I sat and  absorbed the beauty (fresh stargazer lilies), the...

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Sexy Movies

Posted by on Sep 21, 2018

I watched a Star is Born the other day, the 1976 version with Barbara Streisand and Kris Kristofferson. The first time I watched it I was 12. I don’t know how my girlfriend and I managed to tag along with her mother to see an R-rated film, but I do know this: it had a huge influence on me, in ways I didn’t even realize until I re-watched it the other night.  I see now that some sexy seeds were strewn in that dark Atlanta theater that germinated in my adolescent subconscious. Ten years later, a Hopeless Romantic was born. I was 22 and passionate about my bad boy, guitar playing boyfriend....

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Sexy Cape

Posted by on Nov 8, 2015

I’ve written about the sexiness of Feng Shui before. It’s a concept that merits revisiting because clutter breeds like bunnies and stifles the sensual flow of your life.  It must be eradicated! I took on my closet last week determined to clear out summer clothes, move in the winter ones and purge.  Crammed in the back between a seldom worn fleece jacket (now in the castaway pile) and a sleeping bag (they have to be hung) I found one of the sexiest things I own. My wedding cape. It was the perfect accessory for a September bride dressed in a floor length lingerie dress riding side...

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Sexy Switch

Posted by on Sep 11, 2015

What turns you on?  What turns you off? No doubt, these are great sexy questions to ponder. I recently watched a TED talk by sex therapist and bestselling author Esther Perel about the complexities of sustaining passion in long term relationships.  It’s packed with great information but what jumped out at me was her twist on the above questions.  Instead, Perel asks: How do you turn yourself on?  How do you turn yourself off? Brava Esther! Way to encourage us to find our sexy switch and reclaim responsibility for our sensual selves. Of course I started making a list as soon as the...

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Sexy Lining

Posted by on Jun 24, 2015

I try to find the sexy lining in every cloud. But I am having a really hard time with this one: stomach cancer is raging like a deadly hurricane through my father’s body, reducing the robust 200- pound man of my childhood to a mere 130 pounds.  As soon as I arrive to my parent’s home in Michigan and see him convalescing in his Lazy boy chair, I notice how the weight reduction has made his smile that much bigger, despite the fact that he is being racked with hiccups that have been plaguing him for over a week, making it impossible for him and my mother to sleep at night. I drop to my knees...

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